![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() … What exactly qualifies him as “a good man, a great dad” here? I’m not going to tell you that your partner is trash-you know him better than I do-but it sounds like he has some deep-seated issues with either his child or the concept of parenting for some reason, and he is taking them out on someone who has no capacity to defend himself.Īn aside: No child is “perfect,” but even if one has typically admirable, impressive behavior, an emotional eating habit would not render them any less admirable or impressive. Your husband is jealous and critical of your 8-year-old son, so much so that you feel he triggers his emotional eating and that you are complaining about “years” of trying to change his behavior. Maybe I should just chalk it up to bad luck, but how can I let go of the guilt and anger and all the other awful reactions I’m having to this? I also feel caught between friends who seem to want to say, “I told you so,” and those who seem to think that saying that she was the victim of racial harassment somehow makes me seem racist since it was at the hands of Black students. I think she’s managed it well and hasn’t let it affect her general views on race, and I believe I’m doing the same, but mostly I am just so angry that our daughter had to endure this, and I feel guilty that I put her in this position. I am struggling to make sense of the experience. Our daughter had a horrible time there-she was harassed so much that we had to pull her out, and other non-Black students there were victimized because of their race. When it came time to enroll our daughter in high school, we selected a school that was majority Black because it was close by, and we rejected the notion of getting caught up in which magnet school was most prestigious. I am a liberal, White, upper-middle-class parent, and we live in a mixed-income, racially integrated urban neighborhood. Have a question for Care and Feeding? Submit it here or post it in the Slate Parenting Facebook group. Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. ![]()
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